January 26, 2020
Self-confidence

Self-confidence is the primary resource for great achievements.

Anouar Association for development and solidarity presented a conference entitled “how to have self-confidence” that took place on December 21, 2019, at the headquarters of the Anouar Association in Ait Faska.

Under the leadership of Mohamed Dekkak, this conference has been organized because he believes that self- confidence is a key to greater success because confidence is a resolute state of mind where you are convinced that nothing is impossible. Self-confidence does not guarantee success, but it is a way of thinking that will increase your chances of success and is accompanied by a tenacious search for means to succeed in achieving your objectives. This conference was presented and hosted by Ms. Hassini Kim with the participation of Professor Nawal Fares, a personal development coach with other specialists.

The Problem

As observed in many countries, poverty in Morocco mainly affects people living in rural areas and even more women. Women take part in the economic life of their community and region but remain trapped in sectors offering precarious working conditions.

The lessons learned indicate that women are interested in starting businesses or strengthening their existing businesses or cooperatives, but they encounter difficulties when setting up their business, in particular, lack of access to finance, lack of technical and business capacity, lack of private and public sector support, lack of market-oriented skills and knowledge and lack of confidence. As a result, women-owned businesses tend to be smaller in size and grow more slowly and are less likely to take risks. This is the reason why the Anouar Association organized a conference that will help these women overcome these difficulties.

What is self-confidence?

Self-confidence is linked to your confidence, whether in your self-esteem, your talents or abilities, whatever the situation you are in. Someone who has confidence in him strongly believes in him/her. He or she exudes calm and serenity.

Self-confidence is often linked to the possession of certain knowledge, skills or competencies, whether innate or acquired. Having said that having skills in a certain area can simply help boost your confidence, it is not necessarily a prerequisite for self-confidence.

A person without the slightest skill in anything can still be confident.

Lack of self-confidence paralyzes you

Have you ever known someone who had very little confidence in him? How do you see this person? A person who lacks self-confidence does not believe in himself, which is usually caused by a feeling of uncertainty about something.

These are the 8 typical behaviors of people with low self-confidence:

  1. They underestimate what they are capable of.
    2. They take the blame on themselves, even when it is not their fault.
    3. They are too shy and reserved.
    4. They are overly critical of themselves and perfectionists.
    5. They are attached to negative results and “failures” in their past.
    6. They are concerned about negative outcomes and failures even if they have not yet experienced them.
    7. They are fearful and pessimistic about most of the events to come.
    8. They do things to please others.

People with low self-confidence tend to push people around them. Their limited communication and behaviors make them feel “heavy” or “heavy” for those around them.

Lack of self-confidence is a paralyzing personality trait because it often limits you in many opportunities and jeopardizes your chances of success, which leads to a kind of self-fulfilling prophecy.

When you constantly think the result will be negative, it distracts you from what you need to do to get a good result. This will eventually lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy. Because when an unforeseen event occurs, your belief will be strengthened and you will continue to have low or even lower self-confidence.

On the other hand, what would happen if a confident person experienced the same scenario? What do you think will happen? Chances are things will happen differently. Because you are certain to experience imminent success, your confidence somehow taps into your subconscious to find a solution.

This will push you to succeed, which will greatly strengthen your self-confidence, leading you to other successes. Even if you may have started at the same point as the others, just having a strong self-confidence, it will take you much further than someone who does not have one.

In addition, being confident is clearly an advantage for you in life. This not only puts you in a more positive emotional and mental state, but it also allows you to get everything you want.

Being confident allows you to fearlessly pursue your biggest dreams. This arms you to overcome any difficulties, no matter how insurmountable they may seem. This allows you to live the best possible life.

How to gain self-confidence

Know yourself well

Knowing your strengths and weaknesses, your qualities and your faults will allow you to make the most of them and to assert yourself better. It is the first step towards gaining self-confidence. Thus, you will be able to highlight your strengths in all everyday situations: at the office, with friends or family. By identifying your weaknesses, you can work to improve them. Taking stock of your personality and your achievements will help you feel unique and confident. In addition, knowing yourself well will also allow those around you to get to know you and appreciate you better.

Accept compliments

At work, at home, with friends, you accomplish daily a multitude of tasks which can ask the compliments of those around you. Learn to receive and appreciate these positive comments. You can perceive these as encouragements on which you can rely to recognize your main strengths. This will allow you to take advantage of it to boost your self-esteem.

Take care of your posture

Self-confidence shows through in our posture and in our gaze. Hold your back straight, your shoulders raised, your head high and walk with a confident step. Smile more, people will be attracted to you. People with high self-confidence adopt these kinds of non-verbal behaviors. Take inspiration from them. To be more comfortable, you can observe yourself in a mirror to see the difference between your different postures and facial expressions.

Affirm yourself!

Self-confidence depends on a person’s perception of themselves, but also on what they believe others think of them. It is essential to assert yourself with others regarding your choices, values ​​, and opinions. It does not accept non-constructive criticism, pettiness and hurtful words. If a person hurts you, either by their words or their behavior, you should politely let them know. Self-esteem goes without doubt through assertiveness.

Go for it!

To gain more self-confidence, step out of your comfort zone. This area can be defined as any place or time when you feel completely comfortable, where you are in full possession of your means. Anything outside of this area is new and may seem scary. Meeting new challenges, approaching new people, practicing a different activity are all examples that allow you to get out of your comfort zone. Adapting to a previously unknown environment can allow you to develop other skills and learn even more about yourself. The greater the steps are taken, the greater the pride felt.

When you are in a situation where you don’t feel confident – ask yourself: Why don’t I trust myself? Where does this feeling of uncertainty come from? To what have I attached my value? When you become aware of what you have attached your worth to, try to free yourself from these limiting beliefs where you do not feel respectable or confident until you have validated these prerequisites.

Mohamed Dekkak, President of the Anouar Association believes that when you do this, you will find yourself filled with a powerful sense of self-confidence and one that will always permeate you. Regardless of what’s going on around you. You will find that this self-confidence will respond exactly to your desire to obtain what you desire, and will lead you to give the best of yourself. Anouar Association is conducting self-improvement conferences to help not just the individuals but the community of Ait Faska as a whole.